
Terry just lost his battle with cancer today. He was my biggest cheerleader, he and his wife Cheryl. I remember meeting him so many years ago when his sweet Lexy registered for 1st grade. I only knew him as Grandpa until about 4 years ago. Lexy was working at Fatso’s Pizza and saw me for my first open mic there. She told Terry and Cheryl that I was there and we reconnected. They started coming to see me on a regular basis, wherever I performed and of course, Terry would give me the requested critique after. He had been a musician the whole time and I did not even know until just then. He would tell me how I could improve and cheer me on. He always asked if I really wanted him to tell me the truth because he never sugar coated anything. He wanted to help me improve. I looked forward to seeing he and Cheryl when they were able to come see me perform. He would always greet me with “Hello Beautiful”.
As time went on, I took the advice that Terry gave me and started writing so much more and performing even my own songs. He encouraged me to be true to myself and PRACTICE PRACTICE PRACTICE. He said you only get better from practicing. You have to want it and that’s how you get better. He really pushed me to be the best I could be. I am at a loss today knowing he will not be there to help me going forward.
I remember the last time I saw Terry. He was home and between chemo treatments and was able to have visitors. Cheryl was so gracious always and let us just talk about music the whole time. During our last visit, we chatted about Lexy and her new job…we chatted about how he was doing….but the rest of the time we talked shop. I shared the latest song I was working on with him and he gave me tips on what he thought would improve or enrich the song. ALWAYS wanted to know what he thought…. And then, Terry asked me how to write a song. He said that he had tried before and just sucked at it and everything he ever tried to write was just garbage. We chatted about my process and how I write a song. He then told me that he had a chorus already and that he wondered if I would write some lyrics to complete it. Of course I said yes. I asked if he could sing the chorus to me…he did…then I asked him if he would sing it into my phone. He did and I wrote the song the next day. The visit that day lasted for over an hour and I could tell at the end that he was tired. He just got more and more tired as the days and weeks went on. I sent the rough draft of our song to him and he was impressed and could not wait until we could work on it together. He said “WOW…that’s the kind of lyrical talent I’m looking for”. However, that was the last time we had any contact. He got worse and we never worked on the song and never spoke again.
I will never forget how much of an impression Terry Sullivan made on my life as a person and also a singer/songwriter. He always told me to decide what I wanted to do and just make it happen. Don’t try to do everything but do what YOU want. He really believed in me and supported me as a peer and good friend. He was amazing and I miss him terribly already. You do not realize how much of an impact or how much someone means to you really until they are gone. Terry is gone…
I will never forget Terry….hold those you love close and make time for those people in your life you will miss the most when they are gone. Tomorrow is not promised to anyone. I know Terry is in heaven now with no pain or sickness and only that gives me comfort. My husband Mike and I were so glad to have known such a wonderful and caring friend as Terry and will never forget him.
I will look forward to seeing you, Terry, when my time on this earth is over…until then…
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